Firstly In pan take jaggery and add water bring to boil and strain it and set aside need not bring it to string consistency
Now in pan boil the water
Now in a large mixing bowl take 1 cup of idiyappam flour, add pinch of salt and shredded coconut
Now to this add the boiling water and ghee and mix it with spatula or spoon and cover and keep it for 5-10 minutes
Once the flour mixture cools down knead it with hands to soft dough
pinch a small dough and roll it your palms to tiny ball size and arrange it in plate
Now in a pan boil 1.5 cups of milk and 1/2 cup water
once it starts boiling add the prepared balls slowly. do not stir the balls at this stage
Now cook these balls for 5-8 minutes or till the balls float on top just stir it once
Now add rice paste to this balls this helps to thicken the milk
Now add the jaggery syrup and cardamom powder and mix well (syrup should be in room temperature) by now the milk would have been thickened
Now add some shredded coconut this is optional
Finally add Coconut milk and mix once and switch of the flame do not continue to in flame as it may curdle
Now serve the paal kozhukattai warm